50 Valuable Life Lessons I Am Teaching My Teenage Girls

My two daughters are my pride and joy, my daily delight, and the best thing that EVER happened to me!

I want them to grow up and become passionate, successful and live amazing lives. Everything I teach them now and have done so in the past is already forming who they will become. I have made some silly mistakes, not so crash hot choices and paid the price in my life,ย causing me toย doubt my ability and allowing fear to often rule my choices.

I have the most awesome mum, but she was not one for dishing out advice, good or bad, and I want to do things a little differently with my girls, not just provide them with all the love I have to share, but help build them into fabulous women.

A beautiful creation from Design Me Vintage that I adore!


  1. I will always LOVE you no matter what you do.
  2. Be Honest, lies come back and bite you.
  3. A good man will NOT try to change you but will accept you just the way you are.
  4. A girl can never have enough pairs of shoes.
  5. Make your mirror your best friend, look in it daily with a big smile on your face and give thanks for all the bits you love.
  6. From the day you receive your first dollar, discover the wonders of saving.
  7. Nuture a love for books and reading.
  8. Don’t jump to conclusions, seek out the facts first.
  9. Safe sex protects your future, don’t rely on anyone else to provide what is needed.
  10. Sunscreen is the best beauty product you can rely on, use it everyday.
  11. There will always be bitches that cross your path, learn to to pass them by with grace.
  12. Have the courage to share your point of view, but don’t lose all your friends by ALWAYS having to be right.
  13. Learn to love exercise, a strong body will carry you through life with ease.
  14. You must never try to change another person, accept them for who they are.
  15. It is not OK to end a relationship via a text message.
  16. Do not get involved in an online arguement or bitch session.
  17. It is OK to drink Champagne at breakfast time, but never anything else.
  18. Magazine models are airbrushed, such perfection rarely exists in the real world, don’t fall into the trap of believing you must look like that.
  19. Be the best friend you can be, just like you want your friends to be for you.
  20. There will always be a bed and cuddle at home for you.
  21. Food is an absolute joy and should be savoured.
  22. You can BE, DO or HAVE anything.
  23. Do not do DEBT, it can destroy the best relationships.
  24. If you can’t afford to pay cash, you can’t afford it.
  25. Music is one of the best ways to lift your spirits.
  26. Don’t get involved in gossip, more often than not, it is mostly lies.
  27. Never believe anyone that says you CAN’T, because you can.
  28. Don’t ever stop tears from falling, they release pain and sorrow, making space for love and happiness.
  29. Find your passion and follow it.
  30. Being able to say sorry, is a strength not a weakness.
  31. Marry your best friend.
  32. Learn to listen before you speak.
  33. You can call me ANYTIME, no matter what.
  34. Never allow peer pressure make you do something you don’t want, they are NOT your friends if they make you do things against your will.
  35. Movies are magical masterpieces, not the real world.
  36. Learn to trust your intuition, it will never let you down.
  37. Don’t be afraid to fight for what you truly believe in.
  38. Have a go – if you fail – learn the lesson and move on.
  39. Make time for your friends and family.
  40. See the world, it is an amazing place to learn and grow.
  41. Don’t live your life on Facebook.
  42. Good Manners will open doors and hearts.
  43. Your heart will ‘feel’ like it has broken, but it really is unbreakable.
  44. Share what you have.
  45. Sometimes you just have to let go.
  46. You don’t always have to have the last word.
  47. Be thankful for EVERYTHING you have.
  48. Jealousy is a powerful curse.
  49. Step outside your comfort zone, awesomenes is waiting.
  50. You will always be my baby, and I will do my best to let go and let you grow.

xxxx love you both ๐Ÿ™‚


What is the most valuable lesson youย are teaching your children?ย ย 


37 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Beth
    Oct 12, 2012 @ 01:33:45

    Great post and so true. There are many important values that I hope to instill upon both of my children.


  2. Lis
    Oct 12, 2012 @ 11:23:42

    GREAT stuff! I wish I had gotten a letter like that way back when! LOL Ah well… I can at least pass some of this goodness on to my (grown) baby girl, just in case it hasn’t been drilled into her psyche enough!


  3. Joanne
    Oct 12, 2012 @ 12:06:09

    This rocks! I am printing it out and giving it to each of my girls.


  4. Ashley
    Oct 12, 2012 @ 20:07:57

    Great post and some fantastic lessons. There is so much to teach our children! I am very fortunate to have two beautiful, confident girls. They are so much fun and will certainly always be loved, no matter what!


  5. Larissa
    Oct 15, 2012 @ 23:09:52

    What a great list, thanks for sharing ๐Ÿ™‚


  6. Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right
    Oct 19, 2012 @ 11:58:28

    Aww, that last one made me cry. Letting go can be so hard, can’t it. I have a website for parents of teenagers, and I’ll be sharing this with our readers. Thank you for a great list.


    • Nikki
      Oct 19, 2012 @ 13:36:31

      Thank you Rachel, the hard one is tough, as my ‘baby’ is 13 we are going through all this right now, trying to find suitable and safe boundaries that we are both happy with, so far so good ๐Ÿ™‚


  7. Grace
    Oct 19, 2012 @ 13:40:14

    Love this list. Although I don’t have girls, I can relate this back to when I was growing up (well, maybe not so much the point about Facebook..lol!) Love that one about sunscreen being the best beauty product. So, so true!
    Thanks for linking up with FYBF. Please make sure to add the FYBF button to the post! Thanks ๐Ÿ™‚


  8. Yvette @ Little Bento Blog
    Oct 19, 2012 @ 15:51:59

    what an inspiring post for all teens!


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  16. Lara @ This Charming Mum
    Dec 28, 2012 @ 20:49:49

    Gosh what an impressive list! I wish I could remember most of those myself let alone teach them to my daughters. I’ll have to pin the list up somewhere and make regular reference to it. I like number 43 ๐Ÿ™‚


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  19. Nicole
    Feb 06, 2014 @ 07:07:54

    Awesome post. Did you see you made this top list? http://www.earnestparenting.com/2014/01/11/top-15-single-mom-blogs-of-2014/


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  21. Sana Waqas
    Apr 01, 2014 @ 15:41:44

    Wow…what an amazing post!…all the 50 lessons are important but no 1, 24,39,47 n 50 r too good


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  24. letah
    Mar 14, 2015 @ 14:30:33

    They are so cute!


  25. Jane Allen
    Jun 01, 2016 @ 22:40:23

    Great share! I agree with most of the tips, especially this:

    “Be thankful for EVERYTHING you have.”

    Gratitude has helped me through some hard places in life. So much so that, I focus more on the things I have, than the things I don’t. This has helped to give me a positive world view.


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  27. pricilla dsouza
    Nov 23, 2017 @ 17:40:15

    excellent informative post…thanks.Today most of our parenting has become over parenting. We are so protective of our children that we carefully plan their schedules, help them in their studies and school projects, with the result they have learnt to lean on us for almost everything. In reality, we are raising a generation which is so used to depending on their parents for everything that they do not want to do anything alone, even if they can do it by themselves. In such a situation we need to ask ourselves the question, How are we preparing our children to face the outside world?for more please read https://www.smartwomanworld.com/life-skills-for-teens/


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