A Gentle Way To Release Stress And Struggle!

Sometimes life throws some pretty big piles of s**t our way!

Out of the blue, when you least expect it. Just when things seem to be going so well.

That happened to me this week. Cruising along merrily and holy moly, a big annoyance now needs attention.

More often than not, when these things occur, tantrums and tears will follow.

The brain will go into overdrive, throwing all sorts of horrible outcomes at you. You feel a tightening in your chest or a knot grow in your stomach.

Struggle is tough and painful, and I for one are totally over allowing myself to wallow in self-pity and anger. It gets me nowhere and is just prolongs the agony.

You have 2 choices, keep feeding the mind by focusing on the problem, or finding a way to refocus on a better outcome.


Changing our ‘self talk’ is the only way to release ourselves from stress and struggle. Change your story and you change your energy!

Allowing things to work out will not happen if you keep beating yourself up and remaining stressed.

When you are in a grip of panic, try these powerful words to help bring some relief. Choose ones that apply or create your own, specific to the situation you face.

‘I allow peace’

‘I allow joy’

‘I allow calm’

‘I allow rest’

‘I allow relaxation’

‘I allow grace’

‘I allow flow’

‘I allow things to work out well’

‘I allow harmony’

‘I allow good health’

‘I allow great outcomes’

‘I allow play’

‘I allow release’

‘I allow fun’

‘I allow success’

‘I allow creativity’

‘I allow love’

‘I allow happiness’

Simply breathe deeply and gently repeat your phrases over and over.

There is the power to bring relief from stress and struggle when you speak the right words and focus on allowing things to work out, even if you have no idea right now how it well happen.

What do you need to allow right now?

Finding Time For A Mini Break!

Motherhood can be hard work, so much to do, so many people relying on you to get things done.

I can guarantee you that if I didn’t do the washing, no one would put a load on. If I didn’t grocery shop, we would not eat. If I didn’t mow the lawn we would be jungle dwellers, and let’s not delve into the necessary domestic science of toilet cleaning.

I work, I keep house, I cook, I write, I blog, I wash and iron, I garden.

There is never enough hours in the day for everything that needs doing, as well as there never seems to be time for self care, and I am sure that I am not the only one that feels this way.

A couple of weeks ago, I gave away a prize to one lucky reader to take part in Soul Comfort, an online course that is designed to help you find some ‘me time’. I was also gifted a place and I am so impressed with how this course is delivered, and when Brave Girls Club offer their next course, I will be joining in!

BUT, I have discovered a BIG issue that I have, and that is making time for me to do something fun, brings up feelings of guilt, and concern over things that are not being done whilst I indulge myself.

Please tell me I am not the only one that experiences this!!!!!!!!

I know how important self care is, I know we all deserve It, I know I have a guilt attack the minute I turn my back on chores and do something just for me, BUT it has to stop, I need a break!


SOOOO….in an effort to overcome this little problem, I am going to find just 15 minutes everyday to do something just for me, for the sheer enjoyment of it, and for re-training my thoughts about self-care, allowing and deserving.

I have come up with a little list of things I can do, and so can you. Don’t let your focus think about the washing or cooking or anything else that you ‘should’ be doing.

Paint my toenails

Read a chapter of a book

Make a cup of tea and don’t move until it is finished


Read a magazine

Exfoliate from top to toe

Apply a face mask

Have a bath

Phone my mum

Eat chocolate

Work on a little craft project

I will keep adding to this list. Just 15 minutes each day of me time, guilt free!

What suggestions can you add to the list?