Welcome 2012 – Resolutions or Revelations?

 

Welcome to 2012, a brand New Year full of opportunities and possibilities. The wonderful new energy that abounds at the start of a New Year provides an opportunity to reflect on years past, honestly assess what really did and did not work for you and if changes need to be made, now really is the time to take steps in the right direction. If you change nothing, then nothing changes, and at the end of this year you will have the same collection of things that did not work for you.

So many people start January 1, with a hangover and a list of resolutions, and 99% of those people have already thrown then out of the window by the end of week one. Bad habits don’t form overnight, so don’t get disappointed when you can’t give up smoking, lose 10kg and and never eat chocolate again for more than 24 hours.

I prefer to reflect on what changes need to be made and welcome revelations, that taking small steps in the right direction help to break bad habits for ever and can help produce awesome results.

Grab a pen and paper and dedicate 15 minutes to list everything that was really good about 2011, and make sure you keep doing it! Then be truthful and list those things that you are upset, disappointed or really peeved you off. Then for each item on this list, try and pick 5 things, even if they are just really tiny steps that you can start implementing now to create positive change. Be gentle and a little forgiving, rather than being very hard on yourself if you don’t like what you see on your list.

Small steps can include reducing rather than eliminating chemical or food issues that need addressing. Going through magazines and looking for pictures of things you would love to have or look like. Going through recipe books and finding new healthier recipies. Opening a new savings account and depositing small amounts each week. Trying to find peaceful solutions to issues rather than always having to be right and digging your heals in and having another arguement.

At the end of each day, look at your list and give yourself a green tick or red cross if you took a step in the right direction. The month of January is a great time start moving forward and you will be amazed at the momentum created, if for this month you see more green ticks than red crosses. Most importantly CELERBRATE every little step that has a green tick, you are moving forward!

For the month of January, I will be sharing with you everyday, an awesome collection of fun and easy steps that can help you make 2012 your best year yet. I will also share how my list is progressing along!

A fabulous process that I use regularly when I want to instill change is a simple tapping technique that you can do anywhere, anytime. Tapping works on the same principals as accupuncture, but without needles!

With your fore finger and middle finger together, locate the ‘dip’ on your collarbone. Gently tap on this spot, whilst speaking outload the following affirmations. Work though them all, or just use the ones that resonate with you and the areas you would like to see change. Tapping helps to anchor the new and has a positive effect on energy flow, try it right now….

  • “I am excited about the wonderful opportunities coming my way”
  • “It is my birth right to have all my needs met”
  • “I am worthy of the very best in life and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it”
  • “It is safe to give and receive love”
  • “I eat healthier food every day”
  • “I consume less and less sugar each day”
  • “I smoke less and less everyday”
  • “I am growing my savings for investment more and more each day”
  • “I enjoy exercising more and more each day”
  • “My clothes fit better and better each week”
  • “I listen to my heart not my head”
  • “I am grateful for all the blessings in my life”
  • “All is well”

Wishing you all the best for a wonderful New Year and may all your dreams come true.

My First Christmas As A Single Parent!

It's all a balancing act!

 

Christmas is well and truly on it’s way, but this year it just does not feel the same. I usually throw myself full steam ahead into all the festivities, and even though I am trying, the joy just is not flowing freely….

After 23 years of marriage, I now find myself as a single mother of two fabulous girls, with soooooo many decisions to make, emotions to deal with and fears to face and at the same time NOT spending the festive season in a sad and sorry state!

I am very proud of myself for not completely losing it (I think I have come very close), for not resorting to medication or alcohol (was very tempted) and for learning to mow the lawn (yes in our house we had a “I clean the toilets – You mow the lawn” rule) but now I do both! The Christmas tree is up and I even put up some Christmas lights up myself (yes I did scream, shout, break a set or two, but never the less some are twinkling merrily at nightfall!

I am eternally greatful for:-

  • The support I have received from family, friends and the federal goverment!
  • We don’t have any custody issues – got that sorted!
  • Most of the time we can now talk on the phone without arguing!
  • The anger has passed and am working though sad mode now (not so painful)!
  • Realising I can survive and eventually thrive!
  • Can sleep in the middle of the bed, eat chocolate in bed and read till all hours of the night in bed!

Some of things that still need sorting:-

  • Who is buying pressies for who?
  • Are Christmas cards being sent, or is it easier not to go there this year?
  • How can dad spend some time with his girls without it being a sad occasion?
  • How do I sit at the Christmas table and not ruin everyone else’s day being sad and feeling a little lost?
  • How do I take down the Christmas lights without breaking them all????????

Even though I still love my husband, I know that we could never be happy together as a couple again. Too much damage has been done, too much pain and anger, too much not dealing with things at the time and allowing the volcano to build and then erupt, but I live in hope that this year, even though Christmas will be tough, each one after this should get easier………..

 

Happy Birthday Rachel

 

 

As I create the very first post for my blog, it is a very special day in our house, my ‘baby’ celebrates her 12th Birthday today!

As we always do in this house, our daughter’s Birthdays include a special afternoon tea that we share with family and friends followed with a party for friends next weekend. All the cleaning, polishing, cooking, baking and setting up is done and we now just await the arrival of our guests.

BUT, this year is very different from all the parties in the past, this is the first time I have had to do all the preparation myself. After 23 years of marriage, earlier this year it all fell apart. With much hesitation I sent out the birthday invitations, wondering if I could do this all myself, but as I hit the ‘send’ button, I knew I could do it, and even though there will be a different feeling to the whole day, it is all working out for the best and my daughter is still going to have her special day.

I sit here now in joy and gratitutde that everything is done and we are ready to party and celebrate this very special day.

Happy Birthday Bubby, this is your day and I love you with all my heart, and I hope you enjoy it too the full.